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August 17, 2008

The Beauty Lies

Filed under: Daily Observations,Obesity,politics,Uncategorized — Julie P @ 12:02 am

I look forward to the day when men are held to the same weight and appearance standards as women, or if that scenario ever comes into passing, then maybe things would change. The pressure to attain the unattainable is unbelievably high. The unattainable is to remain prepubescent, to maintain a waiflike figure, and to not show the passing of time on your face and body. It is not just the fashion industry, although the main perpetrator of this travesty, but there is a lot of social pressure to remain thin and suffer from Dorian Gray disease, eternally young and thin.

For a long time I had thought that a “size four” was an acceptable size for models, even runway models. It is certainly not large by any stretch of the imagination; it is lean, in fact. One day I chanced up a video about a young runway model that was told she is obese at that size. Obese, can you imagine? It is no wonder young women and even adult women have personal issues with their appearance.

The women who I have thought have set the best example of bucking the trend on the unattainable trend of beauty have been Tyra Banks, Gloria Estefan, Drew Barrymore, Catherine Zeta Jones, and my personal favorite, Grace Slick. Grace Slick for all of her outrageous antics has shown that women can be whoever that want to be and be the person they are the rest be damned. Ladies, take a leaf from Grace Slick’s book, or any of the other women I just mentioned. We are women; we have curves, which means we have body fat. Yes, body fat! Body fat is curves. Curves are what makes us women! And we age; we age well just as well as men.



  1. Hi, Julie – added you to my blogroll 🙂

    I am a fat git and am quite happy with being so, I am 46 but I look about 38, so I am a fat young looking git – cool eh?

    No, seriously, I think that women should not be judged on how they look – but all men are shallow, and beauty really is in the eye of the beholder.

    Comment by Will Rhodes — August 22, 2008 @ 1:58 am

  2. Dear Will,
    Beauty begins inside – being able to accept that we are what we are. Beauty takes strength – to believe in ourselves & not be influenced by some contrived and fake media image. Beauty is in being responible for our own feelings and our own actions.
    When I was a young man, I was ashamed for some of the men that I knew, due to their buying into the “thin is beautiful” hype. Too many times I saw the damage that their shallow and unkind words did to others.

    Over the years I have come to realize that the vazt majority of WOMEN have extremely poor self-image. They are far too critical of themselves – which comes from being brainwashed about they way that they “should” look. Women who buy into the un-natural myth of how they are “supposed to look” (Barbie?) are their own worst enemy. Women drive the fashion industry with their purchases – when are they going to stop being led, and be the leaders?

    Raising my two sons, I did not tell them what to do & what not to do. My job as a parent is to teach them how to 1. realize that a decision needs to be made, 2. how to obtain and organize that information, 3. make an informed decision,4. act on that decision, 5. Their decision may not be the one I would have made, however that does not mean that their decison is wrong.
    The process is the same for all aspects of life.
    Even with all the mistakes I have made in life, I think I may have done something which is meaningful and good:
    My older son is in his third year in college- and he, unlike his father, is a very handsome man. He has not gone the route of “one night stands”- in spite of the “opportunities” that I have been aware of. He has dated three women over the last 5 years, the most serious relationship has been with a woman who would never be found on a runway.

    There is no doubt in my mind that many men are shallow – still I must take exception to your statement that “all men are shallow”.

    Furthermore, it is not only the media that is to blame for the way that men (AND ALMOST EVERY WOMAN) feel. I believe that a major factor is how the parents raise their children.

    ALL people are of value. All people deserve respect & consideration – but most of all….
    All people are deserving of Love.

    It is all to easy a trap to fall into – looking down our nose at someone else in order to make ourselves feel somehow superior. It takes more effort to take a honest look within, and learn acceptance & to grow. Some people do not wish to look within, nor do they want to think for themselves. They want the easy way out. The sad truth is that the easy way is usually not the best way!

    The real hard part is finding people that we can truely call a friend – they are few and far between.

    Thin, plump, or otherwise…. this body we live in is only a temporary home for our Spirit. And we are all here for each other, not just for ourself.

    One last observation – there are many men who prefer a woman to look like a woman. In other words, a woman should have curves, not angles. A woman is designed & nature intended for a woman to carry more fat than a man. Not just to insure that their children will have a better chance at survival, but to attract a mate.

    Our current society is a perversion of the natural order. But what the heck.. anything for a buck, right?

    Comment by Michael C. Gary — October 11, 2008 @ 7:49 pm

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